When I'm bored, I sometimes think of how things come to be defined. Like the word "sweet." Who decided what "sweet" was and who created the word? Does "sweet" taste different to me that it is to others? What is my threshold for "sweet" vs. "sour"?
I was thinking of this as I drove to work this morning. The Girlfriend and I talked about love this morning. Where is the trip-switch for falling in love? At what point in a relationship do you really feel it? Is there a checklist of things a person has to do to be loved by the other? Is it more qualitative than quantitative?
Can you make someone fall in love you? The popular answer is no, but is that really true? When we court and date and caress and compliment, isn't that making someone fall in love with you? Is love simultaneous? After all, you're both experiencing this relationship bliss at the same time, so why wouldn't love develop concurrently?
Love is an emotion that frightens me. It makes me feel exposed and vulnerable and satisfied all at the same time. As if I were naked in the snow yet still safe and warm. That feeling of warmth and safety made me say those dreaded 3 words.
Saying them, even in the quietest, most tender of moments can be deafening. It seemed that the entire world had heard me. I waited patiently for a response, yet none came. There I was, naked in the snow, only this time without that safe, warm feeling.
I may be a bit frostbitten, but I will persevere, you know why, because I'm in love.
I was thinking of this as I drove to work this morning. The Girlfriend and I talked about love this morning. Where is the trip-switch for falling in love? At what point in a relationship do you really feel it? Is there a checklist of things a person has to do to be loved by the other? Is it more qualitative than quantitative?
Can you make someone fall in love you? The popular answer is no, but is that really true? When we court and date and caress and compliment, isn't that making someone fall in love with you? Is love simultaneous? After all, you're both experiencing this relationship bliss at the same time, so why wouldn't love develop concurrently?
Love is an emotion that frightens me. It makes me feel exposed and vulnerable and satisfied all at the same time. As if I were naked in the snow yet still safe and warm. That feeling of warmth and safety made me say those dreaded 3 words.
Saying them, even in the quietest, most tender of moments can be deafening. It seemed that the entire world had heard me. I waited patiently for a response, yet none came. There I was, naked in the snow, only this time without that safe, warm feeling.
I may be a bit frostbitten, but I will persevere, you know why, because I'm in love.
Interesting way to describe love - I kinda like it. Completely understand both the vulnerability and the safeness of love. You feel totally silly saying it at first, and then it almost becomes second nature - to call out I love you before you leave the house or to text message just to say it. Like the other person will die if they don't know that you love them all the time - wow, that sounded a little obsessive, didn't it?? Not the way I meant it at all. Just that you have to tell the other person right away.
ReplyDeleteI think you think too much. I used to think too much and because of that I missed out on a lot. I had some opportunities a few years ago that I was trying to decide what to do about. My brother, who I hardly ever listened to, pulled me aside and said "Life is like surfing. If you try and decide whether to catch the wave or not, you'll miss it and it'll break on top of you. Just don't think and ride the wave."
ReplyDeleteI sounds kinda stupid but he was right. Now I enjoy life a whole lot more and that includes love, relationships, everything. I'm happily married with triplets.
Oh, by the way. My Old Time Radio site should be up next week and yes I'll have Green Hornet radio shows.
I've been naked in the snow. Love feels quite different.
ReplyDeleteOh, you were speaking figuratively ...